I typically run 5W-30 in my cars, but I'm a bit further north than you. The 3.8 has roller lifters, so there shouldn't be any need to run an oil with zinc additive. Lately I've just been running Mobil full synthetic. Seems fine. I've never run any of the "high mileage" oils.
I used to run the orange Fram filters on my old '92 Thunderbird V6. 260k miles and ran great and burned no oil. Regular maintenance is the key. I believe the Extra Guard filters are pretty decent. That said, I primarily run Wix in my cars.
Main seals can be tricky sometimes to properly install. Also, if there is a groove worn in the crank from the old seal, then a new seal will likely leak just as bad or worse. They do make repair sleeves for the crank which I've had okay luck with in the past. I've never had any issues with good aftermarket seals (Fel-Pro, Mahle, Timken, National, etc.). Ford contracted the seals out to somebody. They didn't make them themselves.